Why guys need to get creative when taking a girl out on a date
Geplaatst op 12-06-2024
Categorie: Lifestyle
I went out on a date this past Saturday night. More specifically, I went out on yet another (boring) dinner date, this past Saturday night.
When I began my online dating adventures some 6 months ago, I really didn’t know what to expect. As time progressed, it seemed to me as if there is some unwritten rule that a guy HAS to take a girl out to dinner on the first date. Don’t get me wrong, I love to be wined and dined like the best of them…but I think this unwritten rule needs to be changed up a bit for us folks who are active members of an online dating service.
Why?
For people who aren’t members of an online dating service, how often do they meet someone in “real life” that they are interested in getting to know? I don’t have an exact figure in mind, but let’s pretend the average single meets one person per month that they are interested in getting to know better. “1″ is a good number because for those of use with careers and hectic schedules, I can attest to the fact that I could go for as long as 3 weeks (completely engrossed in my busy life) without meeting anyone new.
So once a month you find yourself on a dinner date, trying to put your best foot forward and make all the right impressions
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(or not). The date goes great and you both have a great time (or not).
Now let’s look at the average female who actively participates in an online dating service. Let’s assume every week she meets on average 5 people that she might be interested in. During the course of that week she whittles those 5 down to 1 or 2 that she would be interested in meeting in real life. Now let’s do some basic math: 2 X 4 = 8. Two dates per week times four weeks in a month equals an average of 8 dates per month. Some might think that this is a little gung-ho, but for argument’s sake let’s pretend our average female dater is really set on meeting Mr. right in a fairly short period of time.
8 dates in a single month. Coincidence or not, back in October of this year I went on a total of 8 dates. Guess how many of those 8 dates started in a restaurant and ended with a hug after a boring movie? All but one. Guess who got a call back for a second date? All but one.
After the first 3 dinner dates, I found myself getting bored with the same ol’ same ol’. The dates went well, the conversation was there, but there was something missing. I couldn’t put my finger on it until I started comparing dates and realized that the best date that I went on was the one where I actually had fun while getting to know the person.
I think that guys should try to mix things up when taking a girl out on a first date, so I have compiled a little list of ideas of where to take a girl for your first date. This list may not apply to everyone, but the gist of this post is for you guys to use your imagination (without having it go too wild and having the date turn into a Tim Burton masterpiece).
1. Take a walk on the beach/strand/outdoorsy area.
2. Goto Starbucks and then take a walk around the immediate shops and area.
3. Art museum
4. Local charity event (eg: pick up trash in a marshland area or the beach…just make sure it is some sort of sponsored event, lest you ruin the romance by asking her to grab that hypodermic needle sitting off to the side)
5. Shopping !!! Every girl loves shopping, even if it is window shopping.
6. Cooking dinner together. This is a lot different than going out to dinner, as it involves interactive activities and is a really fun thing to do.
7. Riding bikes/rollerskates on the beach or trail.
8. DANGER !!! It is a well-known fact that some women are turned on by danger. Try suggesting bungee jumping or skydiving or something of that nature. Just don’t bring your 9mm along (with Snoop Dogg in tow) and go rob a 7-11 with your date still in the car and lead the cops on a wild police chase…..Keep it safe and keep it sane. Perceived danger is the best kind of danger because no one gets hurt (unless your parachute fails to open while you are sky diving….)
9. Animals. Nothing softens a girl up more than being around cute fuzzy little animals. Try going to a pet store or maybe take her out horseback riding.
10. Something she has never done before, but always wanted to do. I am going to leave this one open because every girl is different. Although I don’t endorse being sneaky and sly, I will make an exception for this one. When talking to a girl you just met through an online dating service, try to find out where she has been taken out on a date before and where she would really like to go. Ask your question during the course of normal conversation, and don’t make it too obvious. Then when it comes time for the first date, surprise her (with whatever it is she told you she wanted to do) and you will already have made a favorable impression on the girl (by showing her that you are a guy that DOES have a good memory) and you might find yourself already having a leg up on the competition.
Good luck !!